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JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Hi
I think some of you know me from CUK.
Nice to join your forum those that post on CUK know my dilemma at the moment.
That my wife Pat as now had an Heart attack to had to all her problems.
So this fills in time while waiting to visit her it makes it a long day when you are used to always being busy i would rather be busy than just doing a few thing's around the bungalow.
So i am glad there is a thing called a forum.
As for one of the post's on this forum i have read on it reminds me so much of how Pat is at the moment the posting about having a hard job to get blood out of a vein and tummy all bruised.
Pat's veins keep collapsing when they try to take blood they are taking it a least twice a day and having injection's in her tummy to thine the blood also her 4-5 insulin injections a day plus many medication's. Now Pat as a got an infection but the staff are great at our local hospital.
Kind regards John.

krys · Site Admin Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1466

hello john

welcome to our forum

yes a lot of the people here know who you are and are
praying for pat, and thinking of you at this time.

it is hard work going back and forward to visit a loved one,
especially when they are really poorly, i am so sorry that pat
has an infection now, i hope the hospital staff do care for her,
she sounds a lovely lady.

you take care john, and look after yourself too.

krys
xxx

TerribleTone · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1202

Hi John nice to see you here
Really sorry about you`res and Pat`s predicment
anythibg ant of us can do just shout,
and don`t forget you in all this look after yourselve as well as Pat

Lola · Regular Joined: 04 May 2008 Posts: 317

Hello John
I remember you on CUK, so good to see you over here - I feel sorry to read that you are going through a challenging time at the moment, but I hope that being here on this forum, takes your mind off things, and lets you chill out, i wish you and and your family the very best

Take care
Lola
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Rainbow Warrior · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1354

Hi John, hope you like it here :lol:
Anything we can do, just shout.
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JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Hi
Thanks for your concern.
It's going to be at least 10 more day's before Pat can be moved to Harefield in Middlesex but fingers crossed all will be well.
Thanks again.
John.

TerribleTone · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1202

Morning John
10 days will soon pass John just hope nothing stops fron being then, make sure you are rsting as well.
The car park charges are a disgrace, but again they know people will pay, to see there loved ones.

Rainbow Warrior · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1354

Hi John,
Thanks for keeping us updated here :lol:
Fingers and everything else crossed for you and Pat for the next 10 days at least.
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Today is a gift, that is why they call it the Present.
War does not determine who is right,
war determines who is left.
A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it's old dimensions.

wildthing · Site Admin Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 608

Hi John

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LadyCaroline · Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 7:43 am Post subject:

Hello John.

TerribleTone · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1202

Morning John
Hope things are still ok for you and Pat still
sending you both all our best wishes

JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Thanks very much.
Going to hospital in 1hr.
Hope to find out about the tests that were done on Tuesday ie scan and blood tests.
Just a waiting game but a game i don't like playing.
Let you know more when i find out.
Thanks for your kind words
Kind regards John & My Lovely wife Patricia (Pat)

Rainbow Warrior · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1354

thanks for the update John, hope the test results were favourable.
Love to you and Pat xx
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Today is a gift, that is why they call it the Present.
War does not determine who is right,
war determines who is left.
A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it's old dimensions.

JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Hi
Thanks for your replies.
Test results for scan have come back a little abnormality but result's OK.
Still waiting on test result's for infection and blood tests result's fingers crossed think we are getting there slowly but no hurry as well as Pat is alright in the end.
Thanks again for you kind thoughts.
John

Rainbow Warrior · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1354

Hi John, as long as you get there and the end :lol:
(((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))
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Today is a gift, that is why they call it the Present.
War does not determine who is right,
war determines who is left.
A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it's old dimensions.

TerribleTone · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1202

Morning John
Glad the scan came back ok
hope the other tests come back the same
you will both get there,
sending you both all the best
please give our love to Pat,
and keep looking after youreselve

krys · Site Admin Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1466

hello john

hope pat is alright, love to you both,
keep up
i am thinking about you both

love
krys
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JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Hi
Thanks for yours thoughts.
Pat as now had two negative result's for her infection now so thing's are looking up.
The infection as most can guess is MRSA so no surprises there.
Will be transferred asap to Middlesex if all 3 comeback negative so maybe at the end of this week.
We have been told Pat's heart is only working at 25% capacity but told there are Lot's of people like that but it may improve as Pat gets stronger and after her treatment at the other hospital fingers crossed.
Kind regards John & Pat

Lola · Regular Joined: 04 May 2008 Posts: 317

Awwwww John - I do hope that Pat gets better soon, and back with you so you can lavish some first class TLC on her, with your excellent care. You must miss her, I am keeping my fingers crossed for you both, I'm sure everything will be just fine. In the meantime you can "recharge", so you can be fresh ready to care again, when she back with you.

Btw I read your post , under the section, "You know when you are a Carer when," on Carers UK, and it really moved me, you are an amazing man, I hope that you will be reunited very soon

Take care
Lola

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krys · Site Admin Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1466

hello john

i agree too it was very moving,
and i hope pat continues to improve,
dont forget to look after yourself too john

love
krys
xxx

charles47 · novice Joined: 21 Sep 2008 Posts: 45

Hi John, my dad is 80 and has been at around 25% heart function for the last few years.

He gets about more slowly but he manages ok: the main problem is that he finds it a lot harder to keep warm.

TerribleTone · Moderator Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1202

Morning John
Keeping fingers crossed that last test is negative
and then everything runs smoothly for both of you

JohnRJ · newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2008 Posts: 9

Hi
Thanks for the encouragement Pat is just in her 60's so hopefully it will get stronger it's just that Diabetes complicates thing's.
But have been told there are a lot of people living a near to normal life at 25% heart capacity so will be amongst good company.
May get the last result today if not then Friday.
Then wait for bed at Middlesex.
I have seen other people say when you are a position i am in at the moment it's good if you can write thing's down how you feel i can now say how true that is being on the 3 forum's i am and most of you are on them 3 that to put a bulletin on these forum's and get such nice replies make me feel and give me confidence in the friends i have never met so thank you all again.
Kind regards John & Pat

krys · Site Admin Joined: 29 Feb 2008 Posts: 1466

morning john

i agree, it is good to write things down, and most of the people
on the forums and very kind, and always supportive.

i hope the tests come back ok for pat, and you get a bed soon at
middlesex.

take care of yourself too (((((hugs)))))

love
krys
xxxx